Love and Money Can Go Together
Money has always found its way to the top of the list of disagreements for couples. Because two people may have entirely different styles of financial management, the vows to have and to hold, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer may not hold up when money is commingled. But there are steps you can take to ensure that you both live happily, and financially, ever after:
Communicate Expectations and Set Financial Goals
Few couples really talk about money before the wedding. Ask important questions, like which is more important: owning a home as soon as possible or taking vacations each year? Couples need to sit down and open up their checkbooks, tax returns, billing statements, and brokerage accounts to discuss what they have, what their financial goals are, and how they’ll manage their money from month to month.
Plan a Budget—and Stick to It
Budget not only for the big items, like a new car or home, but also for the smaller ones, like holiday and birthday presents. It’s important to keep track of all your expenses, especially because these may be new to both of you. Create a system to pay the bills like signing up for online bill payment.
Establish an Emergency Fund
Experts recommend that at least three months’ worth of living expenses be saved for emergencies, like a major home repair or temporary loss of work.
Plan for Retirement
Do you both want children? A baby’s birth is a good time to start saving for education. Until then, couples should maximize their retirement savings.
If Disagreements Persist, Keep Separate Accounts
For some couples, four accounts may work best: a joint savings account for emergencies and investments, a joint checking account into which each spouse pays according to his or her income, and two individual accounts to cover personal expenses. Keeping some money separate eliminates the need to ask permission!
Take Turns Paying the Bills
By doing this, you’ll both know where the money goes. One may be more organized than the other so, if you agree that one partner is the bookkeeper, review the bills together every month.